How many times during our lives do we assume that something is going wrong because of something somebody else said? That someone doesn’t like us? Our work is horrible. We’re ugly. Someone is out to get us!
Only to find, that we misinterpreted it? “Oh, you were licking a stamp. I thought you were sticking your tongue out at me.”
Listening to Tony Robbins this morning, he was interviewing the guys from Warby Parker about how the company was founded. The team explained that they made it a point to meet with each other regularly to ensure the mission was on course and they continued to share ideas. Out of these discussions came the simple mantra of “presume positive intent”. Being co-founders (emphasis on the “co” part), it was easy to step on toes or get feathers ruffled simply by misinterpretation. They all had vested interest in seeing the company succeed, but as people do, they approach it in different ways. So they all agreed that before passing judgement (on an email, an action, etc.) they would presume positive intent. There is no bogeyman.
Humans are subject to technical issues, so choosing best possible to download is a good bet. When the little gremlin inside of you head pops in there and says: “uh, hey. I hate to tell you this, but you’re not qualified to be doing what you are doing”, you need a safeguard against spiraling into a ball of “what if”. A mantra. A code. Something to break the spell cast by the self doubt and low vibration thinking many of us carry around, just waiting to hear that ONE THING we knew was out there.
“I’m going to give you a little advice. There’s a force in the universe that makes things happen. And all you have to do is get in touch with it, stop thinking, let things happen, and be the ball.” – Ty Webb